A problem solved is a problem that was looked at one more time.
An open heart is a closed heart that opened one more time. 

The Red Pallas is the public face of a private research effort to apply category theory, control theory, and emergent biology to extremely difficult problems in relationships (personal, professional, between, or within organizations). The approach takes an expansive view of experience and possibilities, while considering what trade deals are implicitly and explicitly negotiated.

The bedrock philosophy:

Cutting out intimacy, because there are problems or it feels too good, is a good way to be alone and without intimacy.

The existence of problems is itself not a problem, but rather a normal state.

All problems remain problems until a satisfying resolution is found, but even for difficult problems, satisfying resolutions can be found.

The way to get better at solving problems is by getting better at solving problems.


Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in

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The essays below are a good start for learning about our approach. In each essay, the limitations of a popular decision-making framework are outlined and an alternative is suggested after reexamining the original problem.

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How to Look for Red Flags
I wish it were as easy as giving you a list of red flags to look out for: He still lives with his mom He’s broke He only has three shirts He does drugs He has unfashionable political opinions He doesn’t have a job He works too much He has kids He hates dogs…
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Limitations of the Relationship Checklist
In Elia’s photo above, the preset geometry of the chess set is toyed with. It is made haze, fractal. Distinctions between pieces are erased, but we can still make apart the individual pieces. The concept of the relationship checklist, like the chess set, usually takes on a common, concrete form. Geometries within the form are dis…
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Why Explicit Boundaries Don't Always Work
This is a prototype schema to explain why some people are told they are violating boundaries, when they sincerely think they are not violating boundaries. I have found this to be a common enough occurrence, that causes enough distress, that it is a topic that needs elaboration…
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